Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.

"I'll definitely be there!"

How many times have you said those words—or heard them from someone else—only to watch that commitment vanish at the first hint of inconvenience? In our digital age of instant gratification and endless options, commitment has become increasingly conditional. In our recent church discussions about setting examples through our speech, conduct, love.. the concept of commitment kept surfacing in my mind – particularly how we view and honor our promises in today's world.

I wanted to sit and understand what the Biblical view of commitment was, and what exactly is commitment. Here is a brief of everything I could compile and learn. This is incomplete and I might add more things to it later, please feel free to comment your thoughts and reach out to me about anything in this post.

What is Commitment?

Commitment is an agreement or pledge to do something in the future. Commitment is like a promise you make, to yourself and others too. It means you've decided something is important and you're going to stick with it, even if it gets tricky or boring.

We make commitments daily – at work, with friends, family, and even strangers (like when we agree to pay for goods or services). While the word "commitment" has become strongly associated with romantic relationships, its true meaning runs much deeper.

The Heart of True Commitment

This is what the Lord commands: 2 When a man makes a vow to the Lord or takes an oath to obligate himself by a pledge, he must not break his word but must do everything he said.

A real commitment means following through on your word even when:

• Things get difficult - You don't feel like it anymore

• More attractive options appear.

• This often means moving out of your comfort zone, which conflicts with our feelings first-culture that prioritizes comfort and avoiding struggle.

Our words are important to God, and He takes our promises to others and Him seriously.

Do not let your mouth lead you into sin. And do not protest to the temple messenger, “My vow was a mistake.” Why should God be angry at what you say and destroy the work of your hands?

Today's culture often treats commitments as flexible arrangements that last "until something better comes along."
Think about it:

• "I promise to come to your game" (unless something more interesting happens)

• "I'll help with the church cleaning" (if nothing else comes up)

Do your promises come with these silent conditions?
Clearly it is a sin to break your promises. It is a command from God to keep them.
So what now? What is the easiest way to keep yourself clear from committing this sin?

Be mindful of your words

But I tell you, do not swear an oath at all: either by heaven, for it is God’s throne; or by the earth, for it is his footstool; or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the Great King. And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.

It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it.

Just say yes or no,
Or 
Do not commit at all. If you are prone to not keeping your word, do not give it.

Be mindful of your commitments

A commitment is making a promise of future action even when something better comes along, even when things get rough. If something requires a commitment, you can bank on things getting rough. Whether it's your own marriage, paying your loan, meeting a friend or following the Lord you said you would never forsake - sooner or later you will not feel like following through with the commitment/promise.

Our feelings tell us to stay comfortable and avoid struggle and pain. A commitment however, requires us to move out of the comfort zone. Our present culture has embraced the feelings trump commitment mentality. 

Do not conform to the pattern of this world

If you follow Christ, you unfollow the patterns of this world. We have ( I have ) to be diligent to honour commitments and not just honour our feelings in a “All the feels ” culture.

The Bible gives us many examples of people who kept their commitments in agonizing circumstances

1. Noah - built an ark not knowing when the rains would come

2. Paul - committed to spread the gospel no matter what came

3. Daniel - Committed to pray even though prayer was outlawed

When Commitments Clash

Sometimes we genuinely cannot keep our commitments. Here's how to handle such situations:

1. Would the change of plan be more loving?

Is the new competing engagement such that it would be seen as a more loving or more honourable endeavor?

Ask yourself: Would changing plans serve a more important purpose? For example, missing a social event because of a family emergency is different from canceling lunch because of a casual date.

We can imagine a number of scenarios that can be perceived as more, or less honourable/ loving, but let's look into the Bible for more examples.

Luke 10:25-37 - When the good Samaritan interrupted his travel to help the man on the road, he may have missed some important appointments to where he was going.

In 2 Corinthians 1:15 we see that Paul told the church of Corinth that he was coming but then he had to change his plans. He was then accused of being fickle. This was his response to that:

Was I fickle when I intended to do this? Or do I make my plans in a worldly manner so that in the same breath I say both “Yes, yes” and “No, no”?
I call God as my witness—and I stake my life on it—that it was in order to spare you that I did not return to Corinth. Not that we lord it over your faith, but we work with you for your joy, because it is by faith you stand firm.

Paul says he was motivated not by fear or selfishness but by love. The question we must ask ourselves, is the new engagement of such a nature that backing out of the first one is seen as more loving - more honourable?

2. Communicate Honestly

There is a sense in which despite our best efforts, every promise that we make is conditional because we are unable to keep our word due to circumstances beyond our control (James 4:13-15, Prov 16:9 ). You might be unable to keep it due to sickness, disability, missed flight …
In fact, only God can perfectly keep each of His promises. 

If you cannot keep a commitment:

• Reach out early

• Explain the situation honestly

• Offer sincere support or alternatives

• Ask respectfully to be released from your commitment
  

Building Trust Through Consistency

Being faithful means being trustworthy and dependable over time. It starts with managing small commitments well before taking on bigger ones.

Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!

Ask yourself this question

Have I been faithful over a little ?

The Challenge

Your commitments reveal your character. Each time you follow through despite difficulty, you're not just building trust with others—you're reflecting the unchanging faithfulness of God Himself. He is the ultimate promise-keeper who never wavers, even when we do.

In a world that often prioritizes feelings over promises, choose to be different. Make fewer commitments if needed, but honor the ones you make. Your reliability in small matters builds the foundation for bigger responsibilities and deeper relationships.

Your faithfulness may be the only Bible some people ever read. Make it a story worth telling.